How To Delay Orgasm

Now we will cover several techniques in this section that will enable you to delay and/or prevent your orgasm and prolong lovemaking for as long as you desire. Some of the techniques will work better for you than others and many can and should be used in conjunction with each other. We will start with the simplest leading to the more advanced with each technique building on the previous.

Identifying The Point of No Return

Before you can exercise orgasm delaying techniques you must be able to recognize when it is that you are going to ejaculate or, as we will call it the point of ejaculatory inevitability or the point of no return( P.O.N.R). In order to do this, you have to do some exercises so that you will be able to identify your P.O.N.R.

Exercise 1: Finding your P.O.N.R. and excitement scale

You should do this alone and without any added stimulation (Pornographic Material unless absolutely needed). You should pay attention to every nuance and subtle feeling that you will feel.

1. Start with a limp penis and begin stroking until you are hard. Notice all of the feelings you feel along the way to your P.O.N.R.

2. Give each level of excitement a number between 1-10, 1.5, 3.5, 9.5, etc.(1 being lowest or semi-hard and 10 highest and the P.O.N.R.) along the way to your P.O.N.R.

3. Try to stay at each level for about 2-3 min. Then move to the next.

4. Notice what it is that moves you to the next level i.e. the speed of your stroking, the tightness of your grip, what you are thinking etc.

5. Move slowly to each higher level as to not get carried away and ejaculate with out finding your P.O.N.R.

6. When you get to a level about 9-9.5 pay real close attention to what you are feeling. You should start to feel the seamen moving from the testicles and collecting in the prostate gland at the base of the penis.

7. If possible stop and take a deep breath and feel everything. If you can’t stop then you have passed your P.O.N.R.

8. See how close you can get, then let your self ejaculate and enjoy it!
Now that you have identified your P.O.N.R. and you can tell when you are approaching your P.O.N.R. all you need is to learn how to slow your path to orgasm which we will cover in the next section.
Now we will start exercising orgasm delaying techniques

Breathing Technique

This one is fairly simple but very powerful when combined with other techniques. That is why you are going to learn it first.
First we need to see if you know the proper way to breathe:
Put your hand on your abdomen and take a deep breath, you should feel your abdomen fill with air and your abdomen expand outward. Your shoulders should not rise. Practice breathing like this until you get it down.

When you feel that you are reaching around 7.5 or 8 on the Excitement Scale take a slow deep breath and hold it for a few seconds until the urge to ejaculate subsides. Continue slow deep breathing until your level on the Excitement Scale drops a few points.

Warning: Don’t hold your breath too long you don’t want to get dizzy or pass out!
This technique may or may not work for you depending on how close to your P.O.N.R. you are, but is very powerful when used in combination with the following techniques.

Stop Technique

When you feel that you are getting too close to your point of no return, just stop what ever it is you are doing. Take a deep breath and just wait 20-60 seconds before you resume any form of stimulation.

Once you feel that your arousal has dropped a few points on your excitement scale you then can resume stimulation. The key to making this work is to really stop. If you are with a lover you maybe concerned that you will look silly or deprive her of her pleasure.

If you use finesse you will be able apply this technique properly without either of the two happening. The key to doing this is not to let your lover feel isolated during your break.

Scenario A: Let’s say your lover is going down on you and you are getting close to your P.O.N.R. and you haven’t had intercourse yet.

A few ways to handle this are as follows:

• Say “Baby, that feels so good, but I don’t want to come yet! Could you stop for a few seconds!” Most women would be very happy to help you out, especially if your are with a steady lover.

• Say “Oh, you are so good! Come here!” and pull her up, take a deep breath and kiss her passionately during the 30 seconds or so...This will only turn her on more and still give the break you needed...Then you can gently guide her back down there or move on to another activity. If you need even more of break you could suck on her nipples or go down her...

• Pull her up and say “My Turn!” and go down on her while you take your needed break. Very few women will argue with this request!


Scenario B: You are having intercourse and you can tell that it won’t be long before you reach your P.O.N.R.

A few ways to handle this are as follows:

• Say “Baby, your pussy feels so good, but I don’t want to come yet!” Stop, pull out, take a slow deep breath (If just stopping without pulling out works for you then it is great. But many times it won’t be enough, also she may keep moving especially if she is on top) and take a break. Most women are very happy to help you out, especially if your are with a steady lover. WARNING: If your lover is screaming “Don’t stop! I’m about to come”, this is not the time for this technique, even if you want to last past her orgasm.

• Stop, take a deep breath and, change positions. This will only work if you have been in one position for awhile. Also the best position to move to is her favorite, unless this was it! Then you might not want to change.

• Pull out, take a deep breath, tell her how pretty her pussy is or how much you love her pussy, go down and kiss her or her pussy a few times, while you take a break.

• Pull out, take deep breath, slide the shaft of your penis over her clitoris with a thrusting motion, and rub her clitoris with the head of your penis and/or playfully slap and tease her pussy with your penis, while you say something like “You like being naughty don’t you, I love your naughty little pussy!” or some other verbiage that you come up with... Be creative!

Breathing and Stop Technique

Exercise 2: Breathing and Stop Technique

1. Start with a limp penis and begin stroking until you are hard. Notice all of the feelings you feel along the way to your P.O.N.R.

2. Give each level of excitement a number between 1-10, 1.5, 3.5, 9.5, etc.(1 being lowest or semi-hard and 10 highest and the P.O.N.R.) along the way to your P.O.N.R.

3. Try to stay at each level for about 2-3 min. Then move to the next.

4. Notice what it is that moves you to the next level i.e. the speed of your stroking, the tightness of your grip, what you are thinking etc.

5. Move slowly to each higher level as to not get carried away and ejaculate with out trying the technique.

6. When you get to a level of about 6.5 apply the technique:

 Stop, take your hand off of your penis, take a deep breath and hold for a few seconds, slowly let the breath out and relax as your excitement level drops a few point on the scale. Pay very close attention to what you are feeling as this happens. Start stimulating yourself again and repeat the above technique at levels 7.5, 8.5, 9.5.
 See how close you can get each time, then let your self ejaculate and enjoy it!

Squeeze Technique

The squeeze technique is just what it sounds like you squeeze your penis with your hand. When feel like you are getting near your P.O.N.R. you do the squeeze in combination with the previous breathing and stop technique.

The Squeeze Technique:

• When you feel close to your P.O.N.R., stop, pull out, take a deep breath and squeeze your penis hard with your thumb and first two fingers for several seconds. After your excitement level drops a few points you may resume intercourse. The squeeze should be applied either with the first two fingers (this is a flat grip the fingers and thumb do not meet.) just below the head of the penis.

• Another variation is to squeeze your penis at the base instead of just below. This can be done in the same manner described above or by gripping the penis in a ring manner with the thumb and index finger. Try both and see which works best for you. You may also be able to use the last variation of griping the penis at the base without having to pull out, and simply just stopping, taking a deep breath and applying the squeeze to the base of the penis and waiting till the urge to ejaculate subsides.

Focus Control Technique

These techniques are more mental than physical and since the mind is the greatest sex organ these techniques are very powerful when combined with the ones above.
These techniques work in the way that you direct your attention away from your orgasm and onto other sensations, and at the same time keep you fully present in the sexual experience.

1. Change your focus of goal:
This is the easiest of the focus control techniques. It is more an attitude than a specific technique.

Change your focus and goal from having an orgasm and ejaculation to enjoying and taking in the whole sexual experience: the smell of her hair, the feel of her skin, the way she tastes, etc...
By taking the focus off of ejaculation and putting it on the whole experience, everything you do does not lead to ejaculating, but to enjoying.

2. Change your focus of physical sensation:

In this one what you do is to take your attention off of your penis and place them on another part of your body. When you get to a high level of excitement, shift you attention from what you are feeling in your genitals to what the rest of your body is feeling. Feel what your hands feel, feel what your skin feels.

3. Change your focus on the external stimuli of your lover:

Many times what drives you past the point of no return is not just something that you are feeling but also what you are seeing and hearing and what your focus is on.
For instance maybe you can last without a problem until you lover starts to moan and scream, and when your hear how excited she is it throws you past the your P.O.N.R. Or maybe it’s when you see her beautiful full breasts hanging down while you are thrusting into her from behind or any number of things.

The point is to identify what it is that drives you past your P.O.N.R. and then change you focus to something else about your lover.

Many men change their focus to sport scores or something that turns them off, we personally don’t think that you should think of something that you find distasteful or negative to delay your ejaculation as you may accidentally create an association between the two. If you feel that this form of detachment may help you, change your focus to anything pleasant that is non-sexual in nature instead.

However, we feel that it is better not to remove yourself from your present sexual experience with your lover. It would be preferable to change your focus to how much you love or care about her, how beautiful she looks, how amazing the experience is, take in the whole experience the ambiance, the mood, feel the sheets etc. Just change you focus to anything that is present except the stimulus that drives you over the edge.